Parents should be Parents and Coaches should be Coaches

Sports have always been an essential aspect of our lives, as they not only help us stay fit and healthy but also teach us important life skills such as discipline, teamwork, and resilience. However, when it comes to children participating in sports, it is crucial for parents to understand their boundaries and allow coaches to do their jobs. Parents are not coaches, and coaches should never try to be parents. If we all work on the areas that are suited to each of us, the athlete will be connected, strong, and feel supported in their goals.

It is understandable that parents want the best for their children, but it is essential to recognize that coaches have expertise in developing the skills and abilities of young athletes. Coaches spend countless hours planning and designing training programs to enhance the performance of their athletes. Therefore, parents should trust and respect the decisions made by coaches and let them do their job.

Parents should also realize that too much emphasis on winning can be a problem. While winning is an essential aspect of sports, it should not be the only focus. As a coach, they need to concentrate on the athletes' skills, thinking, safety, and learning as well as their well-being. The coach's role is to provide guidance and mentorship, not just on the playing field but also off it. This includes helping athletes develop a positive attitude, strong work ethic, and effective communication skills.

On the other hand, parents should focus on supporting their child's goals, talking them through tough times, helping them face losing and winning correctly, and not blaming equipment, other athletes, coach, or teams for their defeat. It is important to recognize that losing is a part of the sports experience, and it is an opportunity for athletes to learn from their mistakes and grow. Parents should help their children understand the value of hard work, perseverance, and dedication.

Another important aspect for parents to keep in mind is their role in creating a positive and supportive environment for their child. This includes showing interest in their child's athletic pursuits, attending games and practices, and providing emotional support when needed. Parents can also foster positive relationships with other parents and coaches, which can help create a positive team culture and enhance the overall sports experience for all involved.

In conclusion, it is essential for parents to know their boundaries when it comes to their child's involvement in sports. Coaches have the expertise and experience to guide and mentor young athletes, while parents should focus on providing emotional support and creating a positive and supportive environment. When we all work on the areas that are suited to each of us, the athlete will be connected, strong, and feel supported in their goals. Remember, sports are not just about winning but also about learning important life skills that will help young athletes succeed in all aspects of their lives.

Coach Brian Shrewsbury

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