Boys are not broken

By Brian Keith Shrewsbury

Boys Are Not Broken

Boys are not broken, nor are they inherently disobedient. Most do not have ADHD, and it is vital to recognize that their energetic and spirited nature is a natural expression of who they are. Boys are fueled by testosterone, and this often means they need to move—running, climbing, and expending energy for hours each day. Such activity is essential not only for their physical well-being but also for developing strength, resilience, and confidence.

Modern Expectations and Boys' Needs

Many current systems and expectations in schools and society encourage boys to be still, quiet, and obedient for extended periods. There is often an implicit pressure for boys to behave in ways similar to girls, disregarding the meaningful differences between them. These differences are not about being better or worse, but simply reflect the unique qualities that boys and girls each bring to the world.

Celebrating Boys for Who They Are

Just as we nurture and celebrate the authenticity of little girls, we must also value boys for who they are. It’s essential to allow boys the freedom to flourish, learning and growing in ways that support their mental, physical, and emotional development.

Letting Boys Be Boys

Honoring boys’ natural inclinations may require us to adjust our expectations and even revisit some traditional norms that have supported their growth throughout history. By celebrating their energy, curiosity, and drive, we empower boys to grow into strong, resilient men—while still encouraging kindness, respect, and emotional intelligence.

Ultimately, every child deserves the space to be their truest self, and boys are no exception. Let's create environments where boys feel free to grow, play, and thrive as themselves.